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Rules for writing erotic romance


I loved reading erotic romance so it’s not a huge surprise that when it comes to writing, my stories are always scorching hot. The love interests rarely stay out of bed long enough to get the plot moving, and sometimes I even have to use the dreaded crowbar to pry them apart. 

But whenever I get together with other authors, I often hear, “I dread writing sex scenes.” I’m always very shocked to hear this because it’s my favorite part of writing the book. I often use this as a carrot for myself to get through writing the scenes I don’t want to write, which are the angsty scenes where there is no hope these two lovers will ever get together.

I get asked how I write love scenes while keeping it fresh between the lovers. So I made a list of rules and they are:


  • Write what is hot to me. I'm going to be reading and reading this book for the next few months as I edit it and proof it and pour over it, looking for mistakes. If I'm bored with it after one read through,  I need to look at why and fix that quickly.  Also, if it is hot to me, that will come across in my writing without fail. 
  • Keep it simple. Erotic romance and the sex scenes within are supposed to arouse the reader sexually. That’s the goal. When a reader has to put down your story and head for the dictionary, it pulls them out of the story. So especially in a sex scene, don’t get too creative with your words. 
  • Make sure you know who is putting what where, especially in m/m romance. It was easier in the days of paperbacks for the reader to go back and re-read the scene in order to get what was going on. With e-books, it is much harder. If I spend a few minutes flipping back and forth between pages, it breaks the tension. Which leads me to the last rule…
  • Make sure the scene flows fluidly. Each movement should lead into the next until the glorious finish where the characters (and hopefully the reader) are both left satisfied. I know this doesn’t happen in real life but if you haven’t figured it out by now, let me apprise you of this fact. Romance novels are not real life. Your scene should be a fantasy.

Now I try my hardest to follow these rules and I don’t always get it perfect. But I enjoy writing the scenes. If I didn’t enjoy doing this, I wouldn’t slave over these stories because writing is hard work!

Guest post by Lori Toland
CEO by day, erotic romance writer by night, Lori Toland lives in Orlando where the summers are hot but the romance between her characters is even hotter. Writing since the tender age of 13, Lori somehow finds time to play video games and watch movies while taking care of her beloved cats and a husband who will forever be her hero.


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14 comments:

  1. Writing sounds like hard work to me, so it makes sense that you need to enjoy it. I wonder if the stories would flow if you did not enjoy it?

    marypres(AT)gmail(DOT)com

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    1. Hi Marybelle,

      If I don't like a scene, it doesn't flow at all. It can stop a story in its tracks. So I generally rewrite those scenes into something more enjoyable.

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  2. Great excerpt! Unlike you, sex scenes are very difficult for me to write-my biggest fear is sounding cheesy and loosing credibility with the reader. Your advice was well worth stopping by. What you mentioned makes so much sense and will apply to my writing. Good luck with your steamy books! Dina Rae

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    1. Thanks Dina!

      Actually cheese tastes good! Don't worry about things sounding cheesy or stupid. They often don't to someone else ;)

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  3. Those rules really make sense! I have read some books where it is obvious the writer is uncomfortable with the sex scene content and it shows. I have also read a book that was a little more "flowery" in style and the same went for the sex scenes... even as a college educated person I kept wondering what was happening. Sex scenes should not use every SAT vocab word imaginable!!!
    Thanks for the great post!

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    1. What you said, Juliana.

      I've read sex scenes where I need a dictionary. I drop the book and move to a different story.

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  4. I could never be a writer. There's too much work involved, too many rules to follow. I am happy just being a reader. Thanks for the blog tour. I'm having fun and learning a lot. This book sounds fantastic. Can't wait to read it.

    e.balinski(at)att(dot)net

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    1. Hi Joanne,

      I'm glad you're enjoying the tour :) and trust me, there are a lot of days I wished I hadn't crossed the aisle to being a writer. It changes the game.

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  5. I like the way you think about what you are writing. Some authors are just trying to be as sensational as they can.

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    1. MomJane,

      I think so or they are trying to make sex in a book a poetic scene by using huge words. It really just comes down to what is the point of the scene. Is it meant to be poetry? Is it meant to titillate? Why is it in there?

      When those questions are answered, the scene stays in. If not, the scene goes. :) It's pretty simple.

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  6. I love a writer who goes for the gusto in the sex scenes. You may as well get some pleasure out of writing them if we get pleasure out of reading them!

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    1. Hi Catherine!

      I love writing the really dirty scenes :) Those are the best :D

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  7. Just popping in to say HI and sorry I missed visiting with you on party day! Enjoyed reading about your book.

    kareninnc at gmail dot com

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